3 real reasons why relationships fails {portraiture|lecture}

games of dreams
games of dreams

Ever since i’ve been doing models photography and routinely have witnessed how relationships ends whether its friends, bf/gfs and even families, i have noted the 3 simple reasons.

Yup, in today’s social driven society, these reasons have become more prevalently significant vs other more traditional reasons. I am going to just list it out here using archaic terms.

1. The fear of people
Why relationship fails is because today, you are more interested or concerned about what your social peers or imaginary friends will think of you if you continue with this guy/girl. Nevermind the fact that he or she really cares about you genuinely or even if its just a caring friend and despite that you did feel comfortable having such friends/gf/bf, you imagined the hell out of your social worth and cut off your friend/bf/gf.
Sometimes because communication happens largely on whatsapp, fb messenger, you imagined nonsensical things that raise bad emotions. Sure an emoticon would have saved the day, but common sense works too. Nothing beats meeting up to solve issues.
Someone that types “hey how are you?” can be read differently and if you read it negatively that because you are only reflecting your emotion from a mirror.

2. You are bloody selfish
You been reading and seeing too much examples of how other people have dream relationships that you don’t have. Those vacations, trips, those extra cash, that ferrari that drives them around, the sunbathing at yatches. So instead of appreciating the fact that your current friends/bf/gf actually provide enough comfort and help you when you needed help, you believe you are destined for better circles of friends/bf/gf/husband/wife.
You built yourself a shrine where you think all the social guys/girls that actually liked your photos and have never proven to do anything for you that requires any sacrifices, would have among them, someone better.

3. You want to play the games for dreams
You have an ambition that goes much bigger than your head. You think your the next Gucci model, the next Steve jobs. So you went ahead and choose ur network and distance urself from your parents, friends, bf/gf that actually cared for you because you are too fucking immature to think one step further apart from your “mood”. The guy who told u the truth, u didn’t like the sound of it and so yeah distance urself.
Your bff sent you a message without emoticon? Ignore her.
Your friend send you a message, but he is no longer useful? Ignore him.
You just got a promotion or your modelling got upgraded and now think your reputation is so high that this friend/gf/bf ain’t of used to you.
I gonna be frank with you here, those who really cares about you, they are not interested to have you for themselves, they are happy seeing you do well. But you have filled your mind with some magical future projection of your status and achievement that u pursue them, and ignored everyone else that used to matter.

So thats it folks. My short and decisive evaluation of what breaks relationships commonly occurring among our community today. Have a good day.

Glance story, excerpt taken from emotional twits found in internet {portraiture | storytelling}

In the end, we stand gazing at the future. How much decision have we made to come to this.
will you leave and just walked away? Will you not return and say “hi?”
Is the journey so beautiful that you can leave those who really do care for you behind, you drop them like a rock, and into the ocean the hearts sank.
All i ever thought of for you is about your happiness and smile. All you ever thought of is yourself and nobody else, maybe just your mum. I can’t be with you because its simple bad for your future, not because i don’t want to. Did i ever asked for anything more than friendship.
I am sorry because i love you.
May you win this contest and go much further away, away from me. Like a dream, you don’t ever have to acknowledge me. You are a queen now and i am but a shadow of your past.
Can we start all over again, with “hi and byes” where our messages are light and our emoticons smiles forever.

* twits taken harvested from twitter postings across June-October 2015.
* all photos taken on a nikon d610 on a 50 1.4d. Processed for Agfa vista 400.
* wondered how the whole set would have been if they were shot on film.